Un-falling in love...

Love is an overused but often misunderstood term. “To love” someone and “To be in love” with someone are two different phenomena, but I’m sure you’ve already heard that.

It’s quite easy “to love” someone when they make you feel seen, happy, valued, secure... and it's so easy to "un-love" someone when they take you for granted, make you sad, miserable, undervalued...

“To be in love” with someone happens usually after you’ve “fallen” in love with them, but what does it mean to fall? To fall means to "plunge yourself into the unknown" cause you can never really know the real depths of a person, to be "vulnerable", to "die to yourself ". 

To fall in love is the most selfless act, it is sacrificial not reciprocal!

“Falling in love” doesn’t sound so delightful and it is definitely not as easy as “merely loving”.

 It comes with responsibility to keep loving a person in dire conditions and when they are not so easy to love. 

"Genuine love loves harder when it's hardest to love"

 It’s when you “fall” in love that you permit love to “blind” you, blind you to reality of who they are. You are instinctive to nurture, to protect, to defend, to cover. Quite frankly it’s a very dangerous and vulnerable position to be, especially if you’ve fallen in love with someone who doesn’t know what love is, or hasn’t even fallen in love with you. Cause when you “fall” in love with someone it’s not so easy to “un-fall” without collateral damage. 

Some claim to "un-fall" easily, but this doesn't exist, if it's so easy for you to walk out the door without hesitation and collateral damage then you didn't really get a chance to "fall" in love with that person, you just claimed to love them that's all. 

Remember you can only "un-fall" if you've fallen. Un-falling is difficult, painful & comes with real loss especially when you've been played, but recovery is possible and at least you had the courage to "fall"

Not many people have the courage to “fall” in love, so they settle for a love that is easy, realistic, logical, convenient, one that doesn’t require “falling”. Unknowingly they choose the path of least resistance and hide behind the defence that common sense is the best policy.

To be in love, you must be ready to "fall”, now I’m not asking you to ignore common sense, but will you settle for a love that’s “easy” cause you lacked the courage to “fall”

Love always,
Kuku.